we don't have a ratio (though that is a good idea) but we have this concept called "negative one". I say this when my husband is one step BEHIND the line.
Sometimes my gf will look me dead in the eye and say, “you’re enjoying yourself too much” which is both sort of polite and also the most cutting thing one human could say to another. Safe to say it’s at that point I know I’ve gone too far
I used the excuse to invite myself over to my future husband's dorm room to listen to his Fireside Theatre comedy record, and I had been dating him (and fallen in love) for about six months before I found out that most of the material that had me in constant stitches was straight out of Woody Allen and Carl Reiner and Mel Brooks comedy records. Didn't discourage me, but it did explain why a young man born and raised in Atlanta Georgia had no southern accent, but spoke like a New Yorker. I suspect that one of the reasons we have been together for 55 years is that we both find the same things humorous. I personally don't tell jokes, but I do tell funny stories about myself, and I never feel better than when someone who has called me down in the dumps is laughing by the time the call is ended. But for both me and my husband, humor is purely for entertainment, of ourselves and others, I can't even imagine what it would be like to see it as the core of our sense of who we are. Lauren is definitely one in a million.
Basically, I wish I was Weird Al. I don’t have any musical talent. No instruments, can’t read music, or carry a tune. BUT that doesn’t stop me from taking a song and making up my own lyrics. Usually, Christina sings along too and makes up her own lyrics. It’s great fun! I used to think it was just silly shit, but then the pandemic hit. Turns out, the ability to make your own fun when it’s just the two of you stuck at home and you haven’t seen anyone else IRL in months, is a fucking life-saver.
hahaha omg this reminded me remember when we were doing a monthly zoom and christina came in singing "down with the sickness" or some intense metal song hahaha
life looked pretty different when we first got married seven years ago (yesterday actually!) ($$$) and snagged a last-minute reservation to the french laundry on our honeymoon.
as all good patrons do, we ate and drank to our fullest selves and at the end of the night (which really should NOT be when you’re paying the bill), they asked if we’d like to support the Thomas Keller education fund and we were like, yeaaaaahhhhhh we wanna support the chef studentttsssssss. so we gave them three. hundred. dollars. 🤦🏻♀️
our ongoing comedy vibe is: “oh we’d donate to THAT school for sure.”
p.s. eye rolling is up next for evagene. so much to look forward to.
You're description of Wilder's "no do this!" reminded me of my now 10 year old singing a song for me at almost 3. It's an Arabic folk song and I have a video of him where he can't decide if he wants me to sing with him or not to sing with him, so he keeps interrupting the song to say "no mama say the song!" It's still my favourite video of his to this day.
i love my boyfriend and i can always tell when he's in a really good mood because he'll just make the stupidest jokes at the most inappropriate moments. like, literally in the middle of sex he'll be like, 'what if all my teeth fell out right now' and even though its fucking stupid i have to laugh. i think i do have a line but we don't often cross it for each other, he probably toes it more than i do though.
Re: # 5 and the nose joke. You HAD to do it otherwise it would have been rattling around in your head for the next month and you have other more interesting stuff to riff on when your brain is meandering about. Purge and move on! Also it made me groan-laugh.
I’d say my comedic 70/30 is 70% dad jokes and 30% musical numbers about something someone just said or something I’m actively in the midst of doing (my husband calls me Linda (Bob’s Burgers) during those 30s). As a couple, I’d say we’re 85% silly and 15% judgmental. It’s a ratio that works for us, and if you’re not laughing together, then you’re laughing separately, but at least you’re laughing.
we don't have a ratio (though that is a good idea) but we have this concept called "negative one". I say this when my husband is one step BEHIND the line.
Sometimes my gf will look me dead in the eye and say, “you’re enjoying yourself too much” which is both sort of polite and also the most cutting thing one human could say to another. Safe to say it’s at that point I know I’ve gone too far
absolutely vicious stuff
I used the excuse to invite myself over to my future husband's dorm room to listen to his Fireside Theatre comedy record, and I had been dating him (and fallen in love) for about six months before I found out that most of the material that had me in constant stitches was straight out of Woody Allen and Carl Reiner and Mel Brooks comedy records. Didn't discourage me, but it did explain why a young man born and raised in Atlanta Georgia had no southern accent, but spoke like a New Yorker. I suspect that one of the reasons we have been together for 55 years is that we both find the same things humorous. I personally don't tell jokes, but I do tell funny stories about myself, and I never feel better than when someone who has called me down in the dumps is laughing by the time the call is ended. But for both me and my husband, humor is purely for entertainment, of ourselves and others, I can't even imagine what it would be like to see it as the core of our sense of who we are. Lauren is definitely one in a million.
The comedy vibe in my relationship is silly. Lots of inside jokes. Lots of character-driven bits. Occasional music bits.
say more re music bits
Basically, I wish I was Weird Al. I don’t have any musical talent. No instruments, can’t read music, or carry a tune. BUT that doesn’t stop me from taking a song and making up my own lyrics. Usually, Christina sings along too and makes up her own lyrics. It’s great fun! I used to think it was just silly shit, but then the pandemic hit. Turns out, the ability to make your own fun when it’s just the two of you stuck at home and you haven’t seen anyone else IRL in months, is a fucking life-saver.
hahaha omg this reminded me remember when we were doing a monthly zoom and christina came in singing "down with the sickness" or some intense metal song hahaha
Haha! That was hilarious! She has very intense musical tastes and whenever I get into her car I hear whatever she was listening to full blast.
There is a certain kind of person who don’t care whether or not their partner or friends are funny and that is just the weirdest thing to me!
Agreed. Humour is everything. Well maybe not *everything*, but close!
close!!
so close its basically everything!!
life looked pretty different when we first got married seven years ago (yesterday actually!) ($$$) and snagged a last-minute reservation to the french laundry on our honeymoon.
as all good patrons do, we ate and drank to our fullest selves and at the end of the night (which really should NOT be when you’re paying the bill), they asked if we’d like to support the Thomas Keller education fund and we were like, yeaaaaahhhhhh we wanna support the chef studentttsssssss. so we gave them three. hundred. dollars. 🤦🏻♀️
our ongoing comedy vibe is: “oh we’d donate to THAT school for sure.”
p.s. eye rolling is up next for evagene. so much to look forward to.
It’s the actual dumbest thing we’ve ever done.
That's kind of awesome, especially if it's truly the dumbest thing you've ever done?
You're description of Wilder's "no do this!" reminded me of my now 10 year old singing a song for me at almost 3. It's an Arabic folk song and I have a video of him where he can't decide if he wants me to sing with him or not to sing with him, so he keeps interrupting the song to say "no mama say the song!" It's still my favourite video of his to this day.
“some surreal avant-garde stuff like saying ‘ho ho ho’ very seriously while eating pringles stood up in the bathtub” 🫶🏽🫶🏽 To number 3: yes.
Hey my husband’s and my shared sense of humor made the whole marriage possible. Nearly 40 years of it.
Bless Lauren indeed! 😂
“there’s even some surreal avant-garde stuff like saying ‘ho ho ho’ very seriously while eating pringles stood up in the bathtub”. Brilliant 🤩
i love my boyfriend and i can always tell when he's in a really good mood because he'll just make the stupidest jokes at the most inappropriate moments. like, literally in the middle of sex he'll be like, 'what if all my teeth fell out right now' and even though its fucking stupid i have to laugh. i think i do have a line but we don't often cross it for each other, he probably toes it more than i do though.
hahaha wow thats a good line ur bf is funny tell him i said so
also i am just now realizing that 'toe the line' probably means put your toes up to the line????
Re: # 5 and the nose joke. You HAD to do it otherwise it would have been rattling around in your head for the next month and you have other more interesting stuff to riff on when your brain is meandering about. Purge and move on! Also it made me groan-laugh.
hahaha thank you and yes
I’d say my comedic 70/30 is 70% dad jokes and 30% musical numbers about something someone just said or something I’m actively in the midst of doing (my husband calls me Linda (Bob’s Burgers) during those 30s). As a couple, I’d say we’re 85% silly and 15% judgmental. It’s a ratio that works for us, and if you’re not laughing together, then you’re laughing separately, but at least you’re laughing.
The deep cut here is the "text me 'lazy triathlon'" means you're not using your phone!! Yes???
omg no i wish! It's more that I often dont have my phone in bed but Lauren does
That little bit about Wilder and comedy and the 70/30 rule is gold. That’s why I subscribe .
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