Welcome, BATheads!
Absurd, honest comedy delivered twice a weekish through the vulnerable personal essays of Alex Dobrenko: tv actor+writer to some, father to one two, and friend to all.
You might be wondering whatâs happening here, so here it is:
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Both Are True is where I explore my background (immigrant from Ukraine, Jewish, loottttaa mental health stuff) and how it affects the person I am today (father, artist, just a lil guy). I share my shame, analyze my anxiety, make the jokey jokes, and hope itâll all help me feel less bad.
Or, as one subscriber wrote,
âItâs the newsletter equivalent of The Office.â
âYouâll usually chuckle, sometimes youâll laugh out loud, sometimes thereâs a cringe-by-design moment, sometimes youâll rethink your whole goddamn life. And most times, youâll have all those things happen to you in just one newsletter.â
Stick around and feel less bad with me.
Who reads Both Are True?
People with messy ass spaces. People who have trouble being happy when things go well, and people who cannot handle their sonâs crying. People with ADHD, OCD, or any other Disorder that just means youâre probably a really cool lil weirdo who enjoys this type of fever dream comedy with a beating, sometimes bleeding, and even at times bleating heart.
People like you, probably.
Hereâs what a few of those people have to say about Both Are True:
Hard to explain, easy to love. These essays are always funny, and they always hit just right. For something completely different, original, hilarious, heartfelt and vulnerable, check out Both Are True.
â Michael Estrin , writer of Situation Normal
Your writing is completely engaging and somewhat addictive. I adore your sense of fun and zany whimsy.
â Joan W.
So beautiful and real. Your writing makes me think of my own family â the bad, the good, the ugly, the imperfect.
â Freya Rohn , writer of The Ariadne Archive
Whatâs in it for me?
BATheads are a ragtag bunch with HEART! (Or mental illness or whatever you have when you donât have the regular thing other people have.) Anyway, come hang out with us.
Youâll get twice-a-week-ish essays that are free, on the house, zero total dollars.
OR, as a paid subscriber, youâll get free essays, PLUS:
Help Wanted: an advice column! And the only place that I, a comedy writer with a psychology degree, am legally allowed to give advice.
Occasional, deeply hilarious, personal essays that Iâm too nervous for everyone to read, like this one about addiction
Consider subscribing - your contributions keep this little rag of a mag going.
"Something about your writing has compelled me to not only subscribe, but also pay and now make my first ever public comment on the internet outside my personal social media accounts.â
â Jason
The Bangers: Both Are Trueâs Most Popular Essays
đ¶ I think my son hates me
PLUS: I am not handling it well
đșđŠ I was born in Odesa Ukraine
How it feels when your homeland is attacked
đ€ Can everyone kindly shut the fuck up about AI
The robots aren't coming, but the people who can't shut the fuck up about them are already here
đ How I grew this newsletter from 56 to 2,177 subscribers in less than a year
I know the title is clickbait but I'm told that these sorts of posts 'do numbers'
About Me, Alex Dobrenko, Lil Guy
(I wrote this part in the third person to sound more professional, lmk if you think itâs working.)
Alex was born in Odesa, Ukraine and moved to America when he was 7 years old. He studied screenwriting and psychology at Brown University and began making comedy videos on Twitter during the pandemic. Some have gone low-key viral (like this one about what itâs like to be married to a comedian and this one about taking a 15-minute break from Twitter) which is, you know, pretty chill. These days, when heâs not writing Both Are True, he makes unhinged reels on Instagram.
Alex created, wrote, and produced an 11-episode digital series called Distance that was nominated for a Gotham Independent Film Breakthrough Series award and received praise from the New York Times, Paste Magazine, and Vulture, who called it âDigitalâs Next Stepâ.
You can catch Alex in the films KIMI from Steven Soderbergh and BABYLON from Damien Chazelle, or you can just subscribe to Both Are True and hang out in his comment sections, which are wildly wholesome - just check out this one and this one.
I just want to say how refreshing it is to read/listen to a comedian with a heart, or more accurately, willing to show his heart. It's unique and wonderful.
In this day when life is far too serious, this is golden.
â Sue Ferrera , writer of Tales of a Wayward Yogini
What does âBoth Are Trueâ mean?
My brain runs on binary - zero or one, this or that. Logic reigns supreme. Â
In the therapy, weâd call this âblack and white thinkingâ and lemme tell you what: sure it might have been good for the SAT, but it sucks in life!Â
Time and time again, I find myself locked in this sort of thinking:
either Iâve gotten negative feedback and am the worst writer alive, or I am praised and am the greatest writer thatâs ever lived
they didnât invite me because I suck, otherwise theyâd have invited me!
Iâm right and sheâs wrong OR sheâs right and Iâm wrong.
The truth, like Jimmy Eat World once said, is in The Middle.
In other words, life is less of an either/or and more of a both/and.1
In other words, both things are, in fact, true. This is what Iâve found most of life to be - the messy middle that accepts multiple truths existing simultaneously.Â
Notice how I once again split life into two camps - either/or OR both/and, which we know is false. So actually itâs a bit either/or and a bit both/and. This could continue for a while but weâve all got banks to rob so letâs get on with our days.
