You ask me anything / me ask you anything (yama/maya) #2
wherein we discuss family and its discontents
That’s right folks, it’s yama/maya time. wow! Quick recap of how this works:
you can ask me anything
me answer
me ask you anything
you answer (optional)
Cool, huh!
The questions can be about ANYTHING that’s sort of the whole point. But also, I want to try providing a wee bit of a theme / topic in case you’re like ‘man, anything? that’s too many things.’
This month’s topic: FAMILY
A long time ago, everyone wanted to be famous and then people realized not everyone could be famous and so they were like ‘shit ok what if we got people together in lil groups and called them FAMElies and they all had to love each other as if they were famous” and so the concept of family was born (this is such a true fact don’t bother looking it up).
So to recap - ask about anything including but not limited to family stuff lol. Some specific things I’ve been thinking about include:
How do you accept parents for who they are vs who you want them to be?
How do I stop worrying about what my parents will think about everything?
How do I ensure my son grows up thinking I am very cool, actually?
The yama/maya is for paid subscribers only which, oh my god it yes, it looks like you can become one for the low price of $1.3075 / week! That’s not much money at all, especially not the $0.0075 part which is just three lil guys (1 lil guy is worth $0.0025, 4 lil guys is a cent).
The math is solid! Become a paid subscriber and let’s have fun in the comments section!
also to be clear this is going on ALL DAY so ask your questions whenever you goofballs
EDIT: After a full week or so I answered ALL the questions - no more new ones till the next yama maya babes
Hi Alex! Idk if I can legally participate in these since we work together but consider me a lawbreaker bc I have a question about (starting a) family! So here I am. Lately I've been reading a lot of Jane Ratcliffe's interviews with various creative, loving, wise, smart folks, most of whom are older than us by a generation or so and most of whom have children, and there is this clear-as-day message of hope in all of their conversations. Literally all of them say very similar things on the subject of hope, without Jane prompting them. It's a message that's like: we gotta keep putting in the work for future generations; we're not gonna fix everything or get it all right, but we gotta keep trying for the people who come next, and our life gets better by trying, too. Now, I'm not saying I'm belly-up, towel thrown. And I'm not saying I don't agree - I do! Wholeheartedly! Ripple effects! We gotta try! But I AM saying that I'm really scared. I'm scared to be hopeful enough to start a family of my own or enough to even be thrilled when friends and siblings start their own families. Truthfully, I just feel scared for everyone and their kids. I know this fear doesn't help anyone and it's holding me back and blah blah. I've read the Brene Brown books. I've heard the wisdom on daring greatly and living bravely. I can even point to a good few instances where I've succeeded in doing so. But my question for you is: as someone with a child, how did you get so brave as to hope for their future and their children's future? Not just your own future of 5 minutes or 50 years from now, but brave enough that you can hold hope for the generations to come?