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I was like WAIT I know this one!

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no u dont this is brand new

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Even now, with children in their 20s, these feeling still combat crawl along, and up and out they come... that second arrow gahhhhhhhh!

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Wait WHAT?! I was told they would go away soon wtf I can’t do this for the rest of my life lol. How do you keep ur self afloat??

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Oh and also you look at them and see that they made a pretty good job of themselves.

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I fill my time with writing … blocking it all out for as much as is humanely possible for as much of the time!

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hahaha ok this I can get down with . BLOCK IT OUT ANd WRITE And ALL IS WELL. Perfect.

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Aug 17, 2022Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

Lol not the dog too😂( yes after reading this in its entirety that’s my take away)😆

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there are many fans of Wilder and Lauren but few have come out publicly in support of Robert. You are a brave and noble soul for doing so thank you

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love!

specific things i love:

"obligatory subscribe button" (i didn't know you could customize those!)

george saunders (love that guy and his books and stories and kindness and substacks!)

"And now, one of the best authors of our present day was collaborating with the person I love the most in the world to put into words a fear so spooky that I truly would have rather never let it see the light of day. Cool cool cool.

Congratulations, George, you fucked me." (you are an artist!)

your honesty

brene brown

"a big ol glass of second arrows aka The Shame Slurpie (™)" (you are a poet!)

"Lauren agrees, maybe because she actually agrees or, more likely, she — being the far wiser one of the two of us — knows that part of love is accepting each other even and especially the bad parts." (lauren is an angel! you are also!)

"Err in the direction of kindness!"

"You are not a failure, but what you’re failing to see (nice)" (you ARE nice! and right! that IS nice!)

"The truth is that I probably won’t change" (<-- please let me know how you feel about that in 10 years, or 20, or 50, or infinite)

"Inviting it for tea as my Buddhist bros would say." (the buddhist bro in me bows to the buddhist bro in you)

"Alex’s beautifully vulnerable piece" (lauren is a double angel!)

"Wilder thinks you are the best dada, and you are uniquely his dada which makes it even better."

also, Wilder has about 19 fingers and toes that you HAVEN'T caused massive bleeding from, yes?

love you!

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reading your line by line breakdown of things you love is truly one of the highlights of my week month yar thank you myq you are, as they say in the biz, a real one

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i'm so glad!

well then, here's another one, a breakdown of the comment you just left me:

reading (i love reading! strong open!)

your (ooh it's about me! i love me!)

line by line (very evocative of the john denver song i grew up with, "inch by inch"!)

breakdown (ooh, what kind of breakdown? it could mean so many things!)

of things you love (hooray! i LOVE things i love)

is (the OG verb! classic)

truly (big fan of the truth)

one (what we all are!)

of the (of what? suspense again!)

highlights (ooh! i love lights of all kind, especially high ones!)

of my week month yar thank you (thank YOU for all these times)

myq you (me me again!)

are (the big sibling of "is"!)

as they say (i do like a lot of Their work)

in the biz (AND in the plezh)

a real one (thank you my friend! YOU are a real one, as i say)

love!

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Aug 16, 2022Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

We only met through your writing but I agree with Lauren, I am certain she is right(again) and I see in your writing you are a Dad that gives a shit(bc you do). Small but sad truth, children don't remember their childhood (mostly) unless it is traumatic. So just don't fuck it up (that bad) and you will be ok!! Thank you for the Polo & Pan intro.

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ahhhh thank you !!! I appreciate this. what if though by trying not to fuck it up I end up fucking it up?? jk but for real - welcome to my lil brain its a haunted house in here.

And yes Polo y Pan RULES. Wilder is sorta done with them now tho and very into Beyonce's new album

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You will fck it up. Then they grow up, and they say “hey, remember that time you (insert 1/100x) you fckd up?” And you say, “oh wow, you're right, that must have been really confusing to see your loser dad sorting that out, I'm really sorry I did that, you're right, I fvkd that up, thanks for letting me know, I'll do better” Done.

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Ok. I loved reading this so much. I printed that speech for friends for Christmas though and now I feel worried I may have fucked up their Christmas. Hope Wilder is sleeping!!!

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