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Sep 29, 2022Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

but a really lovely essay <3

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Sep 29, 2022Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

awww i also love the advice

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Sep 29, 2022Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

omg the pic of wilder + gramps is too cute

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Sep 29, 2022Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

does it ever get chilly in la tho

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Sep 29, 2022Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

okay speaking of abers + fitch and middle school boys, my friend's son was giving away his old sweats from new a+f and wow they fit me great

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Sep 29, 2022Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

also that curly hair, WOW

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Sep 29, 2022Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

WILDER CAN WALK NOW?!

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Sep 29, 2022Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

P(eabody)P(ulitzer)E(mmy), the new PPE

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Sep 29, 2022·edited Sep 29, 2022Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

ha, I love this. This: "Watching your parents with your child also feels like traveling back in time and witnessing how they raised you." Truth. The Horror. It's chilling. Also--my mother in law said, when our son was becoming mobile, "now's the time you need to start locking your cabinets" and I had to reply "o! really? we were actually going to put out little sippy cups of poison and see if he can figure it out...." in law grandparents. oof.

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how are you so funny and so wise and so compassionate to everyone and also yourself all at the same time, how how how? <3

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Cool article! I literally LOLed at so many parts. You're a great writer! :)

This is unrelated, but I wanted to share that I also write on substack, at https://birdfunfacts.substack.com/

It's a blog about nature and birds. If you feel like it, come check out my blog and maybe even subscribe! :)

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this rules

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Alex, Well-written and insanely wise. xo Mary

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Hi Alex! Not sure you remember me but your subscript popped into my in box. Sounds like you are well and living the good life in LA. Enjoy fatherhood! I still do despite one of my kids being Michael!

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Oct 8, 2022Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

This makes me think of my grandma’s favorite phrase, “Would you rather *I NOT CARE?*” when people accuse her of being too opinionated, too pushy, too...much. No grandma, I’m so glad you do. ♥️

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Found this via Substack Reads and let me just say...thank you, and wonderful, and I'm both smiling and clutching my chest. My Dad was/is from India (he died in 2020 and I can't quite bring myself to use the past tense when talking about him). I totally identify with so much of what you write (and feel). My kids are grown now, but when I was a new-ish parent, my Dad didn't exactly approve of my parenting, but he also understood that it was a whole different ballgame -- his American kid raising her American kid. That dawning, for both Dad and me, in time brought us closer. He loved being a grandparent in his own quiet, stern, loving way. Your parents sound absolutely marvelous.

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