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May 5, 2023Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

coffee yes also just like that sign I too will work for money

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BUT AT WHAT COST

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Your mind is such an explorer, thanks for all the beautiful nooks and cranny of your Jeremy experience ❤️

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🧡🧡🧡

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what’s your relationship with time?

we have a great relationship, i think. i don't know. time never calls, never writes, but i swear we're cool. ok, yeah, sometimes i try to kill time, but a lot of the time i do that by reading history, which reminds me that time cannot be killed, and my efforts to kill time are quixotic, at best.

what about coffee?

two cups a day. no more, no less. actually, sometimes i go for three. that's when problems arise.

are you good at killing time / relaxing? how?

like i said, i can't really kill time, nobody can. but once i realized that, i leaned in to relaxation. i'm a big fan of long walks and longer hang outs with friends. that's is the way.

if youre also obsessed with work — why?

i'm not obsessed. i don't think so. i'm always working in the sense that i'm always open to stories and ideas, but i try to keep regular hours.

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Ok so I wanna read more history but it all is so booooring how do I get over that

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hmmm. i've always been fascinated by history, so maybe i'm not the best person to answer this. but my advice is to look for a book that speaks to a question you have about the world. example: if you find yourself asking, what's the deal with american imperialism, are we even an empire, and how should i feel about any of this, i recommend How to Hide and Empire. Another way to go about it is to read a type of historian. i'm guessing historians who write social and cultural history might be up your alley. Rick Pearlstein is a good place to start. i'd also check out some narrative nonfiction from someone like Erik Larson. Not exactly history, more like true crime stories that are really old, but you'll get a lot of history mixed in with a really compelling narrative. one other suggestion. some people get into history as a way of remedying the miseducation they received in school. if that's the case, take any history topic from your school days that still resonates and dig in. you'll be amazed (and horrified) by the shit you weren't taught, and that amazement / horror might just propel you into a full-on history addiction.

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I am so impressed by how engaging your writing is! And I find it amazing how you can craft such a funny and interesting story out of what many would see as a mundane experience. Thank you 😊

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thank you so much!

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varry nice, nothing better than sitting alone in a cafe and people watching.. and i enjoyed your hour off the clock vicariously. The best I can do in rural NB is drive half an hour to a small town Tim's, Same old men, btw

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Hahahah if the place is named after some dude, you know the old men will congregate

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"Who has killed an hour? Not casually or without thought, but carefully: a premeditated murder of minutes. The violence comes from a combination of giving up, not caring, and a resignation that getting past it is all you can hope to accomplish. So you kill the hour. You do not work, you do not read, you do not daydream. If you sleep it is not because you need to sleep. And when at last it is over, there is no evidence: no weapon, no blood, and no body. The only clue might be the shadows beneath your eyes or a terribly thin line near the corner of your mouth indicating something has been suffered, that in the privacy of your life you have lost something and the loss is too empty to share."

--Mark Z. Danielewski, as Zampanó, House of Leaves, p. 543 (Appendix B: Bits)

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aaahhhh this book keeps wiggling its way into my life! Is it good? I keep saying I will read it but I don't but I want to

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Yes it is good and I recommend it but nobody can read it by not reading it so if you want to read it you need to just read it.

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May 6, 2023Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

My relationship with coffee.... coffee is ESSENTIAL.

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hahahah

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May 5, 2023Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

Perfect perfect perfect.

Just had my own coffee shop find experience in Santa Rosa, CA on the way home from a road trip with my 91 yr old father. http://pinercafe.com

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Dang that place looks good

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May 6, 2023Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

Dear Sasha,

I finally understood the meaning of "music to my eyes" phrase.

When I read you're writing, it's like music only I see it instead of hearing it. Absolutely beautiful - each of your writing works has a very unique melody and a very distinct rhythm.

Each of them have a beautiful story that stays in my head for a very long time.

And the humor, don't get me started with humor...

Your writing makes me so happy, your ability to use words telling a STORY is a huge gift that you need to flourish and share with others. Please never stop doing that.

Great job Sasha, great job

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thank you dada

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My relationship with time is sacred knowing it’s limited ness. So I slice it per blocks of 2 hours. It is up to what I feel at the moment it the blocks are to be filled with something, or nothing.

Coffee is black decaf lavazza for now.

Yes, I kill time by breathing, noticing and to the contrary, killing time is when I feel most Alive. It should be called alive time.

Obsessed with dopemenergic hits, but from time to time I am reminded that there are bigger things at work or at play that is more important than my obsessions.

Hello

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Alive time. I like that. What are some top dopaminergics?

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Sublime.

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❤️🧡❤️

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if i don't have one cup of black coffee every morning i can't function, but if i have more than two cups in a day, i also can't function

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life's razor's edge

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May 9, 2023Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

I hate when waiters top my coffee without asking. I had a good ratio going and now I have to start over. They bring chaos for me to put in order.

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coffee-filled chaos is so good tho

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May 8, 2023Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

Time isn't real, but the schedule is. An important distinction to remember.

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May 6, 2023Liked by Alex Dobrenko`

Coffee =life 😁 Loved this post, personal and really resonates with me.

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I'm not a massive fan of the whole overwork, overpush, over-effort adored by our culture. Have you read the 4000 Weeks book? It makes an extraordinarily cogent and logical case for the importance of doing nothing, regularly. Highly recommend bpth the book and the concept!

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I read it! well, I mostly read it, cuz I was too busy to finish. lol this is a joke of mine but also true -- its also what happened with the 'how to do nothing' book. I do fear I'm too far gone with this obsession w work thing...maybe that's not right tho

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Audiobooks my friend. Audiobooks.

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