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This is my favorite of yours!

Once I called my mom in tears to tell her my boyfriend (now husband) was dead. She assured me that I’d meet someone else.

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My son does this to me and I'm only 64. When (if) I get to be 84, he'll probably have the local police come check on me (my sister actually did that to my mother - she was not amused to open her door at 10 PM to find a police officer asking, "PLEASE call your daughter, ma'am."). I think it's a little annoying, but kind of cute. The kid loves me! 🤗

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I totally do not get this and have never panicked when my HUSBAND IS STILL ASLEEP AT TEN AM AND I AM SURE HE DIED OF AN ANEURSYM AND IS PROBABLY DEAD IN OUR BEDROOM BUT I DON'T OPEN THE DOOR TO CHECK BECAUSE MAYBE HE WAS JUST UP LATE AND WILL BE ANNOYED IF I WAKE HIM BECAUSE HE ISN'T DEAD BUT WHAT IF HE IS OR JUST STOPPED BREATHING AND IF I CHECK NOW THERE WILL BE TIME TO SAVE HIM!?!?!?

Like I said, I totally don't get where you're coming from at all.

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I dressed up as a blind nun for Halloween and posted a pic on Facebook. My mum emailed my partner with the subject : urgent. The first line was "hi, how are you? And your parents? I just saw an upsetting photo on Facebook..." Note, my phone was not turned off or anything

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I read this back when you had first published it and it is a beautiful brilliant piece - one of my favourites which I’ve shared far and wide.

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Okay, I'm laughing so hard that I'm having a hard time typing.

My kids are both boys, 28 & 30. My parents never called me, never visit/visited me, really let me be.

There is literally no reason why I go to the same places you just did except, well, you know, you can now.

I have learned to not send that text or repeat calls. (You should too. While you can. Before Wilder grows up and issues the same ultimatum that you issued to your parents.) It's hard but so worthwhile.

As someone who has lost a close family member to tragedy, I can flatout tell you, worrying about them not reporting in will not stop the agony of loss one iota. What it will do is lessen their joy with your relationship while they are here.

But yes, I still want to ?? text my kids.

Thanks for a good reminder today to love in the moment.

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I refrain, too, fearing they will respond the way of the opening. But it’s hard.

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"just as the prophecy hath foretold.” So funny. All of my family is on the location-sharing app but I’m not and they don't understand why. But once, one of my sisters was visiting our dad, who lives in a fancy suburb. There are manmade lakes in the suburb. Our other sister noticed that the app pinpointed my sister’s location to be IN THE MIDDLE OF A LAKE. The sister who noticed sent this text to the sister who appeared to be in a lake: “you good?”

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🤣🤣🤣 thank you for sharing this I am in tears

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Oh, good. I’m glad it came across!

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this.is.the.BEST 🔥❤️

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This really resonates with me. Ever since having my son, who is 3 now, my anxiety has been pretty much constant. I rarely leave the safety of home, and when my mental health is really bad my anxious voice in my head says don't go out you'll get in an accident; or when I get grocery delivery "don't go out they have a weapon Theyre going to hurt you". It's really bad. Like you, I worry about car accidents a lot, especially my husband when he's late getting home from work. So, I feel you and the way you acted is SO VALID I would have been the same way!

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Well, sonny youngster, back in my days of worrying omg my husband has been in an accident and is for sure never coming home, we didn’t have CELL PHONES and we didn’t have FINDMY. We just had dumb telephones that were only good for talking on.

Once I finally learned (took appx 85 years) that NO MATTER how long I think a trip should take, I should ALWAYS add on 1-2 hours because time works differently for my man, life got a little less panic-filled.

I'm afraid my “little kids, little problems, big kids, big problems” stories might 1. Break your heart for me, 2. Imagine I must be the absolute worst parent (I'm really not), and 3. Give you things to worry about that I don’t want you to worry about.

Great post, Mr D

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This was so good, especially since I'd just had a conversation yesterday with a friend who started out telling me how irritated she was with a friend who constantly texted, and got upset if she didn't immediately reply, and thankfully was then able to understand the irony of the fact that the week before our conversation was about how upset she was when her daughter (who is off to college this fall) doesn't answer her texts or her phone, or gets irritated when her mother then calls her friend, or roommate, to make sure everything is ok, and to tell her to call home! :)

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The number of funerals I’ve planned in my mind for my much-alive husband when he’s been anywhere from 5-30 minutes late coming home from work is embarrassing.

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