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Madeline's avatar

Perhaps my favorite BAT essay ever???

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Lisa Sherman's avatar

I think it’s awesome that you have that kind of relationship with your father🙌🎉

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Birdie's avatar

I took tweens on a secret mission last year. After a family death, most medical equipment had been picked up quickly. After the fog wore off, I realized there were oxygen tanks in the foyer.

I finally had enough of looking at them. Son brought a friend. I let them blast music with windows down. We pulled up to what I decided was going to be a drop off place. Tailgate up, motor running, boys grab the tanks and giggle the whole way to the drop.

Tailgate down, music up again, laughing as we spun out, memory made.

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Satchel's avatar

I loved this one the first time and I still love it 💚

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Architectonic's avatar

Saaaaaame

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B.A. Lampman's avatar

I love this, of course---as much as I did the first time. Maybe more.

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DiagnosisInLove's avatar

Happy Father’s Day

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Kara Norman's avatar

This one is such a classic. Truly should be anthologized. “This is how we talk when there are no Americans around - him and my mom in Russian, me in English, a cold war of words, thankfully with no end in sight.” STOP IT 🏆 🏆

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Charlotte (has) Baby Brain's avatar

Oh I've always loved this one

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Elizabeth Lasted's avatar

Breaking rules was anathema for my parents.

Me too mostly, my nature is conflict avoidant. That said, I had early crime adjacent experiences.

Not my idea but i was there when someone was: **Crossing the state border to purchase "illegal" fireworks, returning to set them off.

**Placing a small button lithium battery in regular trash.

**Catching a raccoon alive and transporting it to an area miles away.

**changing seats with driver, seen by border guard while in line to cross into another country. Reason, his driver's license was expired. Questions were asked and answered, after a brief shaming we were back on the road.Yikes. that was close.

BUT mess with me and curses will be placed on you and all that you hold dear. dark powers run deep.

kidding but...am I?

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Hunter's avatar

great article alex :)

1. yes. without my parents and with.

2. my oldest brother and i have a long running joke that neither him nor i know what sex is. anytime it comes up even in vague reference we pretend it's a foreign concept

3. no favorite heist movie

4. i would be the getaway driver but i'd get everyone caught because i am obscenely afraid of drifting a car. i would have a good playlist at least.

7. yes i enjoy this bit!

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According to Mimi's avatar

So much fun! I do have a crime story, and if I hurry, I can put together a note or two and write about it next week. Thanks for the prompt!

And the laughs. You need to write notes that consist of hysterical texts between you and your dad.

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Bob, the Free Radical's avatar

happy Male Parental Unit day . . .

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