i want to be with someone i can goof with - help?

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Q: How do I find someone to goof with?

Hey there.

So, allow me to set the stage: I am 23 and single. I graduated college a few months ago and moved to a new city. I’ve also been doing a lot of thinking lately, and many of those thoughts have been about relationships (yikers).

I recently had this realization in my process of thinking about dating/relationships/marriage: I’ve always known I want to be with someone that I can laugh with, but that’s not enough. Instead, now I’m looking for someone I can GOOF with. There’s a big difference. I can laugh with almost anyone, but I can only truly goof with a small handful of people. Goofing brings so much more joy than just finding something to laugh about. Goofing is creating your own things to laugh at with little to no resources.

I feel that it is rare to find a person who truly matches my goof energy. I look back at the girls I’ve dated in the past, and maybe one of them had the same goof qualities as myself, which is a problem.

So here’s where the question comes in: How do I naturally find someone who I can goof with for life when that rarely comes naturally? I think that it’s especially hard to truly goof with someone when the idea of dating them is there. How do I get past that? And how can I bring that out in people?

Sincerely,

A guy looking for a girl to goof with

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